Thursday, April 3, 2008

In my quest to find a new friend...

I've been taking the girl on a few play dates lately.

She has some friends in her class that actually make their moms call me to arrange play time together...(How cool?)

I've been having an okay time with it. I'm not the social butterfly you all think I am...I have a hard time being comfortable at first. But the few moms I have met so far have all been pretty nice.

We've chatted, shared stuff, the kids have played nicely together...Dare I say, it's been quite pleasant?

I hate having to make sure my house is neat though. It's very difficult to hide the piles of laundry. Especially when the play room is right next door to the laundry room...You know?

And I have a huge headache after the playdate is over. I need serious Excedrin after most of them. Why is that? Why am I so anxious about all this?

Anyway, yesterday we had another playdate with a boy in her class...I'll call him Bo. We went to their mansion house. Can I tell you, I almost wanted to puke at the grandness of this place the house was gorgeous! Huge rooms, huge furniture, huge ass kitchen...I begged asked her nicely to show me around. Then I realized who these people were. Quite well endowed Famous ass Fairly comfortable and famous business if I do say so myself.

The point here is...I enjoyed myself. Fa had a blast. And this mom isn't snooty at all what I thought she'd be like after I saw where she lived...She's pretty cool. I think I like her. And Fa loves Bo dearly. They played so nice together...

I am happy.

I'm proud of us, Fa and me. We are branching out. And enjoying it. We are taking steps together to make new friends...It's nice.

And honestly, I still can't believe I'm doing this...


  1. morning JJ -- good for you. glad to hear you are branching out. it is so good for you. hope you find what you are looking for, kathleen

  2. Hi - I'm another Janet. I found you on the Planet of Janet (we're becoming quite the crowd). Actually I thought I had commented once before, but maybe I didn't. I meant to. Anyway. I have a 4-year-old daughter and a 2-year-old son. The play date sounds marvelous. I haven't got up the nerve (that whole house cleaning thing again).
    Regarding previous post, I haven't had a BFF in quite a long time. They keep moving away. I write, they don't. It's an interesting phenomenon (boy, did I have trouble spelling that). Ok, that's enough. I'm in the 32-aker woods if you'd like to visit.

  3. Good for you!

    I have a serious love/hate relationship with the playdates as well. My playdates as a kid consisted of my mom kicking us out of the house and saying play until lunch/dinner!

  4. Nice! I'm also not the most outgoing person, but kids kind of force you to make friends. I'm glad you're enjoying it!

  5. I'm happy for you. When we moved here I had no friends. I joined a local moms group and now have met some great girls. It was hard going to that first playgroup where everyone knew each other and I was the outsider, but it has been so worth it!

    If I lived closer you would have to keep your doors locked at all times to keep me away!!!

  6. YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!

    baby steps, honey, baby steps! you're doing great!

  7. Playdates can be hard - fun and nurturing, but hard if we compare everyone else's homes to ours. My youngest used to be friends with a royal brat and her b*tch Mom. Their house did not have a speck of dust anywhere- it wasn't big, but her baseboards shined more than her fake smile. I cringed every time I went there and even more so if her kid came to my house (dust bunnies living in communities around the baseboards, etc).

    I'm blessed now with a wonderful group of kids (and friendly parents) who accept us for who we are rather than how clean our house might be.

    Keep it up, it seems you are doing just fine. You're certainly not alone- It's all good!

  8. You go girls! I love making new friends...though it can be scary at first!

  9. Good for you. New friends are great....just takes a while to get to that comfort zone.

  10. Well, that didn't take long to be on your way to making friends.

    Good job!

  11. Woo hoo for you and fa!

    and if you now know someone famous and don't tell me, I will be grrrrr....maaaaddddd.



    I live vicariously through people who know famous people.

  12. I am so proud of you for putting yourself out there and making new friends. It'll be like a whole new world of people just waiting to be discovered and befriended, and sounds wonderful! (Even though I can see how it would be a bit unsettling as well!)

  13. P.S. I couldn't help but notice your Shelfari widget. I have an account at, but this looks pretty neat. Is it sort of like a social networking site for voracious readers? If so, I may have to join you there :)


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